self awareness to drive your career

It’s very easy: sit cross-legged for 3 to 4 hours a day, empty your mind and it will all become clear.

Don’t fancy that? Really? I’m surprised but ok, let’s look at some alternatives.


Firstly, as my flippant intro demonstrates, self-awareness is often associated with some hippy or spiritual endeavour however there is nothing woo-woo about knowing and understanding our motivations and it doesn’t have to be a spiritual quest (unless you want it to).

Secondly it is accessible to all, no meditation training or psychology degree needed. All you need is a genuine desire to develop yourself and the realisation that knowing truly yourself is the first step.

If you are here you want practical advice so here are some actions you can take, the list is by no means exhaustive, if someone gives you the formula to access self-knowledge I suggest you run before handing over your money or worse, your mind!

Be kind:

Before you embark on this journey, can you please make a deal with yourself? The deal is to be KIND with yourself. There is going to be a lot of inner chatter/conversation which is a great source of information. However if you are constantly judging yourself or putting yourself down it is not useful, you’ll just end up with lower self-esteem but little knowledge about yourself.


You can “handle the truth”, the real truth not the fear-based stuff

Test yourself:

The first time I took the MBTI test it rocked me, and not always in a good way, some aspects of myself I didn’t like but I had to agree they were me (and family and friends confirmed, weeps). You can take the MBTI test for free (here) and there some resources to better understand the result (here) however if you can get it done by an MBTI consultant it’ll be more powerful (so go nag your HR manager!)

Nowadays the Enneagram is also very popular, I’m honestly not too au fait with it but a lot of my coaching colleagues swear by it. Although different the impact is the same as it will give some paths to explore. You can do the test for free and find more about the 9 types here.

Be quiet:

“The quieter you become, the more you can hear.”
― Ram Dass

Ram Dass is spot on. So tomorrow, on your commute to work, rather than switch on the radio or open a book, just let your mind wander. What comes up may be a bit random but let it run for a bit and pick out the stuff that you find interesting to pursue. Another time ask yourself some questions about a situation, a person, your dream job, there are no limits… no-one will ever know 😉

Eg: I wonder why John annoyed me so much in the meeting today? What did he say/do? I think the best way to describe it is that I was hurt. Why did it hurt me? Does it remind me of another situation/person?  You see how you can get quite a lot of info with this questioning process as long as you stay non-judgmental – see Be kind!

Observe yourself and others:

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”
― C.G. Jung

Yep, Mr Jung hits the nail on the head so pay attention to your behaviour, your mood, how it changes depending on the people or the situation. Basically be nosey, you’ll get a ton of knowledge.

The secret is, as I said before, to stay non-judgmental if you start judging yourself and people around you what you get out of the exercise is not so interesting as it contains a lot of pre-conceptions and fear. Dropping the habit may take a while, let’s be honest we spend most our times applying our “filters” on people and situations so we cannot just decide to remove them and that’s it, it’s done. So once again be kind to yourself (do I sound repetitive?), you don’t want to end up judging yourself for judging yourself etc…


A simple and effective approach as long as you l-i-s-t-e-n to the answer. I see you rolling your eyes? How often do we listen approximatively to what is being said? Selective hearing is a condition plaguing most of us. So if you are prepared to listen then ask your colleagues, friends and family members that can give you constructive feedback. Try and get a range of feedback, what I mean is just getting feedback from admirers won’t teach you much. You need positive and challenging feedback so you can start building a picture of the image you send out.

Feedback is particularly useful when you are making a change or you feel something is amiss, just ask and listen

Your company may provide you with a 360e feedback assessment otherwise you can use the Johari window which is a great tool to take stock and record as your self-knowledge develops:

johari window self awareness

Write it down:

When you have aha moments or interesting thoughts write them down or record them on your phone. The likelihood is that you have a busy life so it’s easy to have a super interesting realisation about yourself that could dramatically improve how you lead and therefore accelerate your career and, and….and it disappears in the midst of the billions of thoughts and actions you’ll have that day. Hours later you try and get it back and all you get is a watered down, fuzzy and unclear version, very frustrating (or is it just me who has a goldfish memory?!)

Read up on self-awareness:

You’d need 100 lifetimes to read all the books written on this subject so take a stroll in the Personal Development or Psychology aisle of your favourite book store and see what catches your eye.

Some favourites of mine:

Authenticity, How to be yourself and why it matters by Professor Stephen Joseph

The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

Trust your intuition:

I’m big on data, I made a career out of it, however I admit to the power of the intuition. You feel you don’t have any? Fear not, it’s probably rusty through years of neglect. The above actions are like weight training for the intuitive muscle, in no time and if you care to listen you’ll get that gut feeling, that little voice whispering in your ear.

This list is by no means exhaustive, in fact we each have our own way to build self-awareness and this is just some inspiration to get you started. You don’t have to spend hours at a time, a few minutes a week will do, it’s likely you will soon be hooked especially as you see the impact it is having on your decision-making and behaviour at work: you’ll see a strong and balanced leadership emerge effortlessly.

I hope this is useful and I’d love to hear your thoughts on developing self-awareness and how you are going about it.

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